Is It Too Good to Be True? Common Misconceptions About Cohousing

Is It Too Good to Be True?

Cohousing isn’t utopia—it’s just a better way to live.

When we describe Gratitude Village to new people, the reaction is almost always the same:
“That sounds amazing… but does that actually work?”

It’s a fair question. The idea of a walkable, multi-generational neighborhood with shared meals, organic gardens, car-free paths, and meaningful connection can sound almost too good. Some people even joke, “Is it a cult?” Others are curious but skeptical, asking whether they'd have to give up their privacy, compromise their lifestyle, or spend their weekends in endless community meetings just to choose a paint color.

So let’s take a moment to gently and honestly address some of the most common misconceptions about cohousing. Because while this lifestyle is different—it’s not nearly as extreme or unfamiliar as many people think. In fact, for many of us, it feels like a return to something deeply human we didn’t even know we were missing.

Misconception #1: “I’ll have to share everything—even my house.”

Not even close.

At Gratitude Village, you’ll own your own private home—complete with a front door, a private kitchen, bathroom, and the autonomy you’re used to. You don’t share your house with anyone outside your family (unless you choose to). What you do have is access to so much more: a beautifully designed common house for gatherings, coworking spaces, organic gardens, guest suites, and community meals—all steps from your door. These shared spaces aren’t requirements—they’re resources that enrich your daily life.

It’s like having the perks of a small town and the warmth of a close neighborhood, while still enjoying the privacy and independence of home ownership.

Misconception #2: “I won’t have any privacy.”

This one comes up a lot—and we get it.

Many people worry that community living means losing control over their personal time or space. When I first moved to a small town from the big city, I had the same concerns. In practice, cohousing is built on choice. You decide when to connect, and when to retreat. Some days, you might join a communal meal, take a yoga class with a neighbor, or linger in the garden for a spontaneous conversation. Other days, you’ll close the door, draw a bath, and rest—and no one will question that.

Cohousing respects boundaries. In fact, it works because it respects them.

Misconception #3: “What if I don’t get along with everyone?”

Honestly? You won’t. Nor do you have to!

And that’s totally normal. Cohousing isn’t about becoming best friends with every neighbor—it’s about creating a foundation of mutual respect and cooperation. Just like any workplace, school, or extended family, there will be personalities you click with and others you don’t. The difference is that in cohousing, we’re intentional about communication. We use proven tools and shared agreements to navigate conflict and collaborate gracefully—even when we disagree.

It’s not perfect—but it’s a lot healthier than silent driveways and unspoken tension behind closed doors.

Misconception #4: “This sounds like a lot of meetings.”

Let’s talk about that one.

Yes, cohousing communities do make decisions together—but not in the way you might fear. We don’t sit around debating lightbulbs or micromanaging each other’s homes. Instead, we use sociocracy—a highly efficient and inclusive model of governance. Decisions are made by small working groups with clear roles and feedback loops. You can be involved at the level that fits your lifestyle, and your time is respected.

The result? Shared leadership without the chaos of traditional consensus—and community culture that reflects everyone's voice.

The Truth About Cohousing

Cohousing isn’t utopia. It won’t make life perfect, erase differences, or eliminate the messy parts of being human. What it does offer is a better structure for living with intention, presence, and connection. It gives you a place to belong—not just physically, but emotionally. A place where you are supported, seen, and surrounded by people who genuinely care.

And yes—it does work.

There are more than 170 cohousing communities thriving across the United States, with dozens more in development (cohousing.org). Many have been going strong for over 30 years. They’re home to people just like you—people who once had questions, hesitations, and doubts, but ultimately said yes to something better.

Gratitude Village Isn’t About Perfection—It’s About People

At Gratitude Village, we’re not creating utopia. We’re creating a neighborhood rooted in presence, purpose, and people. It’s a place where kids ride bikes freely and are known by name. Where elders are valued and included, not hidden away. Where you can grow food together, share meals, help a neighbor, or take a quiet moment for yourself—and it all feels natural.

This is community, re-imagined. Not perfect. But powerful.

💬 Let’s Talk

If you’ve ever thought, “This sounds amazing, but…”—you’re not alone.
Questions are welcome. Curiosity is encouraged. And honest conversation is part of the journey.

📬 Email us—we’re happy to answer anything openly.
📆 Join one of our upcoming info sessions to see what it’s really like.
🏡 Ready to explore a better way to live? You might be closer than you think.